24.Jun.18, 09:26 PM
Laughing, Murlissa raised an eyebrow at B’jin, “Well, aren’t you sweet, helping him feel young like that.” she teased, making her voice sound as innocent as possible though her smile gave her away. Her short time Flight mothing back in Katila had not resulted in her sleeping with R’nd, and as she didn’t have a male dragon she’d never ended up with B’jin either, so she could enjoy teasing them without having to actually picture anything.
Then B’jin was confused by thinking T’ryn should offer women rides between after Flights and Mulrissa frowned at him. She didn’t think her beliefs about men offering rides was that strange or uncalled for and was rather surprised at B’jin’s reaction. “For one, it’s polite,” she started, considering her words carefully, “Like not walking out on someone while they’re still asleep. It’s a small sign of respect. Basic respect is hardly a bad thing to have or cultivate in our young people. And for another,” she continued while arranging her plate so that all bits of cheese were on a slice of bread or paired with a piece of fruit, “It gives the man more control over his own life as well. Honestly, do you all just sit around thinking ‘well, hope that woman decided she didn’t want a child and I’m not going to get a surprise in nine months?’ There’s no guarantee that a woman will want nothing to do with her child’s father, and if you don’t want the expectations of being a parent on you, does it not make sense to be more proactive in making sure you don’t become one? And yes, if a woman doesn’t want a child many will ask for rides themselves, however what if she wants a child and you don’t? If you just assume she’s gone off to get a ride between from someone else you may end up with an unexpected baby.” She shrugged.
“It’s just easier to know what you’re both planning on doing from the start. If the other person doesn’t initiate the conversation, it makes sense for you to do so. It’s less messy and complicated in the long run. And do I think women should know this as well? Yes, because again, personal responsibility. But since it takes two people to create a child, then it seems reasonable to me that both people take some responsibility for that possibility.” Did men really feel they had no part in having a child just because they didn’t carry it? What a bizarre notion.
Rissa gave B’jin a wry smile. “That’s the basics of my lecture on the topic. Apologies, but you asked.” She shrugged again. “Not something you have to worry so much about these days, hmm?” The benefits of having a mate. “Besides, I’m hardly ‘waiting around’ if I’m debating the best time to talk to him, am I?” She said finally, taking a bite of food. “I could just tell he wasn’t up for that conversation last night, so I held off asking. I was planning on talking to him later today, or perhaps tomorrow. Unless you’re volunteering Larrikith. Or I suppose I could ask R’nd to take me between on Ayyonth, though I think you’re the only one who’d have fun in that situation.”
Then B’jin was confused by thinking T’ryn should offer women rides between after Flights and Mulrissa frowned at him. She didn’t think her beliefs about men offering rides was that strange or uncalled for and was rather surprised at B’jin’s reaction. “For one, it’s polite,” she started, considering her words carefully, “Like not walking out on someone while they’re still asleep. It’s a small sign of respect. Basic respect is hardly a bad thing to have or cultivate in our young people. And for another,” she continued while arranging her plate so that all bits of cheese were on a slice of bread or paired with a piece of fruit, “It gives the man more control over his own life as well. Honestly, do you all just sit around thinking ‘well, hope that woman decided she didn’t want a child and I’m not going to get a surprise in nine months?’ There’s no guarantee that a woman will want nothing to do with her child’s father, and if you don’t want the expectations of being a parent on you, does it not make sense to be more proactive in making sure you don’t become one? And yes, if a woman doesn’t want a child many will ask for rides themselves, however what if she wants a child and you don’t? If you just assume she’s gone off to get a ride between from someone else you may end up with an unexpected baby.” She shrugged.
“It’s just easier to know what you’re both planning on doing from the start. If the other person doesn’t initiate the conversation, it makes sense for you to do so. It’s less messy and complicated in the long run. And do I think women should know this as well? Yes, because again, personal responsibility. But since it takes two people to create a child, then it seems reasonable to me that both people take some responsibility for that possibility.” Did men really feel they had no part in having a child just because they didn’t carry it? What a bizarre notion.
Rissa gave B’jin a wry smile. “That’s the basics of my lecture on the topic. Apologies, but you asked.” She shrugged again. “Not something you have to worry so much about these days, hmm?” The benefits of having a mate. “Besides, I’m hardly ‘waiting around’ if I’m debating the best time to talk to him, am I?” She said finally, taking a bite of food. “I could just tell he wasn’t up for that conversation last night, so I held off asking. I was planning on talking to him later today, or perhaps tomorrow. Unless you’re volunteering Larrikith. Or I suppose I could ask R’nd to take me between on Ayyonth, though I think you’re the only one who’d have fun in that situation.”