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739.02.13 | In Need of Fatherly Advice - T'ryn - 27.Mar.18
T’ryn sighed with relief as he crept a bit closer to his father’s weyr. It wasn’t that he didn’t like B’jin and Larrikith, in fact he found them pretty fun and liked when they were around. But this visit was different. This visit was far more embarrassing than any before. This one involved needing to talk to his dad, alone, about some advice.
R’nd was both the best and worst person to come to, he decided for the hundredth time since landing in Telgar Weyr. R’nd was widely known for the attention he lavished on his lovers, the gifts he would surprise them with, and simply the affection he gave. But he didn’t with anyone long. Until B’jin, of course, but T’ryn suspected R’nd purposely didn’t think about the amount of time together so he wouldn’t freak out and leave. Not that he, or anyone, knew why he never stuck around a relationship for long.
T’ryn was starting to doubt the idea again but he didn’t really have anyone else to ask. His friends were either in the same boat as him or off in their own direction that he wasn’t sure he was ready to follow.
True… but I don’t want to dive right in like some of them have. I’m not going to scare Casa away because I did something too forward or wrong no matter how much you wish I would. T’ryn scowled over his shoulder in the direction of Syrendryth, the bronze beast chuckling in his head as he peeked his head into the weyr B’jin and R’nd shared, calling out to his dad to let him know he had a visitor. Just because B’jin wasn’t home didn’t mean R’nd was decent for a spur of the moment visit.
RE: 739.02.13 | In Need of Fatherly Advice - R'nd - 27.Mar.18
R’nd was, in fact, decent. He had also been rather productive with his morning. He did his laundry while gossiping with his favourite ladies down in the washing room and then headed off to soak in the public baths to catch up with some of his fellow riders that were also having an easy morning. He was now clean, dressed, and sitting at the table eating some fruit much to Rell’s disappointment. He still stole pieces from R’nd when offered but it wasn’t the same as a meat roll, which R’nd promised to share later.
He nearly choked on his bite of apple when T’ryn’s voice caught him off guard. Thanks for the warning, Ayyonth, R’nd chided his dragon which earned a far too pleased with himself reply,
Ignoring Ayyonth’s teasing, R’nd greeted T’ryn warmly and ushered him into the eating area to join him for fruit and drinks. While it wasn’t odd to have his bronzeriding son visit, it was usually planned ahead and not so soon after seeing each other. After pleasantries and small talk, R’nd finally deemed enough time had passed for T’ryn to find his voice for the reason that brought him there and asked for him. “So what really brings you by? I like you randomly visiting but you seem distracted and fidgety so there’s something on your mind.”
RE: 739.02.13 | In Need of Fatherly Advice - T'ryn - 27.Mar.18
T’ryn frowned as he was called out on why he was visiting. He also suddenly had an urge to sit on his hands to keep from fidgeting so R’nd wouldn’t notice that he was nervous and even anxious. How did he even notice such a thing had to have a reason behind it?
“Well, there’s this girl,” he paused to chuckle at himself for trying to be discreet but R’nd would already know exactly who it was considering he brought her to the family dinner not too long ago. “Okay, it’s Casa and I really like her,” he also really liked N’mor which added to his confusion and maybe even hesitation about moving forward with Casa which was silly because N’mor wasn’t interested in him.
“But I don’t know what to do about that. I don’t want her to think I’m just trying to get her into bed and then leave her,” T’ryn winced and gave a small apologetic look at R’nd, hoping his dad didn’t think that’s how he was viewed. “I guess what I’m trying to say is, I need advice on dating. Casa’s special and I want her to feel that way when she’s with me.” He was pretty sure he was turning red from embarrassment over confessing such a thing to his dad.
RE: 739.02.13 | In Need of Fatherly Advice - R'nd - 27.Mar.18
This time, R’nd did choke on his fruit. He quickly grabbed his glass of water and a moment later he was fine. He had been expecting something like borrowing Rell for some nefarious deed or maybe a surprise that he was moving back to Telgar. R’nd hadn’t expected to be asked for love advice. He had never really given advice on that matter before and didn’t really have anyone to learn from either. It just came naturally, he supposed. He just treated everyone with kindness and made sure they knew how beautiful they were in his eyes and how important they were.
He leaned back in his chair and crossed his arms over his chest, fingers tapping the other arm in thought. What should he say? How should he say it? “Compliments. If you think she’s special, then let her know it. If she’s good at something, let her know. Physical compliments are nice but don’t always focus on her beauty or she’ll think you really do only want to sleep with her,” he raised a brow at T’ryn but didn’t comment further on the subtle implication that that was what he had always done. It was true he used to have people that wouldn’t mind him popping in for sex, but they were still friends and while he knew some people thought it odd, R’nd always believed sex was something you could enjoy between friends without using each other or expecting more.
“You don’t always have to do something when you get together. Spending time together at home talking is just as nice as going out for a picnic when you’re with the right person. And don’t bring her a gift every time you see each other. It’s not that she’ll expect it, but it kind of loses its appeal.” Was any of this appropriate advice? Was this what T’ryn wanted? He really hoped T’ryn wasn’t trying to ask for more information on sex. It was one thing to teach that class when T’ryn was simply a Candidate and unknown at the time that he was his son, but to do so now seemed horrifying.
RE: 739.02.13 | In Need of Fatherly Advice - T'ryn - 27.Mar.18
T’ryn nodded at every suggestion given as he mentally jotted it all down. It all sounded so easy! But when he was with Casa, everything shifted and he felt so awkward around her and that he wasn’t good enough. Not a peep out of you, he quickly added to his dragon before a snide comment could be made about Casa not being good enough for him. It was something he had heard a lot since they spent part of a Gather together before they continuously crossed paths until he asked her to be his date for a family dinner. He liked Casa and unless she tossed him aside tomorrow, Syrendryth was going to have to get used to the idea.
He could definitely do the complimenting part and he was glad he didn’t bring a gift when he first asked her out! But he’d keep that in mind, maybe bringing her something for special days or if he saw something that she would like. The idea of hanging out and talking seemed doable as well. They kind of did that at Benden Weyr, not that he would tell his dad they had gone against the rules and spent time together in an abandoned Weyr. But she was fun to talk with and that was part of why he liked her. He wasn’t bored when around her.
T’ryn was busy looking at his hands, trying to form the next question the right way, so he missed R’nd’s reaction to whatever was going through his head. “Thanks, dad, that really helps me. And, um… how do you know when she likes you just as much?” He didn’t want to make a move on Casa, assuming they were on the same page, and have her slap him and leave. They were both Weyr bred and sex was so normal to their culture that it didn’t embarrass him—when others did it. But him? He was worried it’d be the wrong time and place and maybe he’d be in the mood but not Casa and he didn’t even want to think about the details. She already knew he was a virgin and hadn’t laughed and ran off so that was a start!
RE: 739.02.13 | In Need of Fatherly Advice - R'nd - 27.Mar.18
R’nd groaned inwardly as Ayyonth continued laughing at his misery. It didn’t seem like T’ryn wanted a refresher course on the mechanics of sex but it was delving into uncomfortable waters and R’nd loved swimming – both literally and metaphorically! “Trust me, you’ll know,” he tried to be vague with the answer but T’ryn’s hopeful expression, begging for a bit more information, led him to continue. Curse his boy and his need to know everything before proceeding with something!
“One minute you could be laughing together and the next you’ll feel the energy change and you’ll know that a kiss would at least be acceptable, if not more. Unfortunately I can’t give you too much more, T’ryn. It really is a feeling and taking a chance, sorry to say.” T’ryn really didn’t like being spontaneous, preferring to have a plan before proceeding. Being organized and having a plan and being prepared for every scenario possible would take him far in being a Wingleader.
RE: 739.02.13 | In Need of Fatherly Advice - T'ryn - 27.Mar.18
His dad really was beginning to know him well. T’ryn frowned again, this time at the knowledge that he wouldn’t have all the answers going forward. He wasn’t sure that he liked that so much of liking someone involved instinct and going where the tides took him. He wanted a clear sign! Or steps to follow, especially ones for an ‘in case of emergency, do this’ situation.
He nodded, accepting the advice though he was still afraid to do anything with it. He supposed he really would have to wait and see how everything went with Casa before worrying about taking things to a more physical level. Still, he wished a timeline would exist where he knew after a certain amount of months or dates, it was okay to proceed to the bedroom.
But maybe some examples would still be nice, even if he didn’t want all the details this time. “When did you know you were really into B’jin? How did you know he felt the same?”
Perhaps he should learn to time questions better, T’ryn thought as he watched R’nd choke on his water before looking around frantically, likely for an escape route. This time, instead of only R’nd hearing Ayyonth’s laughter, T’ryn was included in it as he spoke to only the youngest.